Finding Your Own Strength When Those You Love Aren't Supportive - from U Publish Free Articles

Finding Your Own Strength When Those You Love Aren't Supportive - from U Publish Free Articles: "If your 'family and friends' don't honor and respect what you need when you are going through a period of loss, you may decide you need to limit your time with them for the time being.

Although this is a difficult thing to do, It's incredibly important for you to surround yourself with people and situations that support you in healing and moving forward.

People who want you to be exactly who you were before your loss, aren't clear on the concept. It's likely they haven't been through a difficult loss...or if they have, they didn't deal with their loss very consciously. Being around you may trigger their own feelings of loss and pain that they don't know how to handle.

Your job isn't to talk them into healing...your job is to take care of yourself and your own needs. When you feel stronger you'll be able to decide when it's time to interact with them again.

It's never easy to put distance between you and your loved ones during a time of loss...in a way it adds insult to the injury of your original loss. During this time when you are feeling especially vulnerable, you naturally want to turn to those you love and are familiar with...you want to be able to depend on them. You want to be able to feel their love and support. When they aren't able to support you it feels like another layer of abandonment....yet another loss."